My guilty pleasure is the “Entertainment” section on Google News. Sure, I check the world & US news – I pretend to have some culture about me, but I love the celeb news. That being said, I do not enjoy gossip. I like to know about new TV shows, movies, Oscar praise, and up & coming actors, but I don’t read about the Kardashians (why are they in my news feed anyway?) and I certainly don’t partake in any celeb nudie photo shenanigans.
But for real… Let’s talk about Katherine Heigl for just a minute. I don’t pretend to know all the details about her reputation in Hollywood or anything about what happened with Grey’s Anatomy, but lately I’ve seen stories about her being a “bitch” and a “diva” to work with. Recently, I saw an article where she apologized for people getting the wrong impression of her. Why is she apologizing for other people’s misinterpretation of her?
Here’s my issue:
In a world of female empowerment and #BanBossy campaigns, why can’t women speak their minds about what they want & need to be successful? Unfortunately, in our society, it’s all too common for a woman to be labeled these things because she knows what she wants and won’t play games to get there. When a woman speaks her mind and it’s unpleasant subject matter, (i.e. – wanting a raise at work, not getting desired results from employees, demanding to be treated with respect in a relationship), she’s instantly labeled as a “bitch.” Or you get someone like Beyonce or Ariana Grande who knows what she wants, knows what it will take to get there, and demands nothing but the best from herself and those around her… well, she gets labeled as a “diva.”
How is this fair? How are we, as women, going to get equality with men (equal pay, better maternity/paternity programs a la Sweden, etc.) when women are willing to attack and label other women for being strong an outspoken? Because Katherine Heigl demanded more of herself, her writers, and her fellow cast while on the set of Grey’s Anatomy, she got labeled as a “difficult-to-work-with-bitch.” Just because something is unpleasant to hear – and sometimes deal with – does not make the subject matter any less true or relevant.
To my ladies: don’t stop yourself from speaking your mind. Speak your mind respectfully, but truthfully. To my gents (and ladies): don’t label women as crazy, bitches, or divas, just because you don’t want to deal with the ugly truth of whatever the subject matter may be.
Gotta go through a storm to get a rainbow.